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Woah...it's been a while hasn't it? I assure you that it was not intentional. Life just happens and things get busy. Babies are born, holidays are celebrated, birthdays happen, people get sick, kids have school activities, and the list goes on for miles. You know what I'm talking about. But then, for the sake of being honest, I find myself saying, "No one wants to hear what I have to say." Then I find myself asking, "What do I have to say? What great nuggets of wisdom do I have to impart to those looking for answers?" or "What encouragement can I give to those who need it?" The answer to all of those questions is pretty much the same: NOTHING/NONE!
You see, we are in the same boat. We may not have the same experiences, but are in the same boat nonetheless. Life is on the job training. We are all trying to do the best we can: Be the perfect wife, be an awesome mom, be a great friend, be a super Christian, and whatever else we are aspiring to. We try to keep all the plates spinning and that just isn't going to end well. I think we all suffer from "Wonder Woman-itis" to some degree. Don't get me wrong, I do too. In fact, I would go as far to say I envy this woman. I have always wanted my own golden lasso, tiara, and that cool cape (for you younger ladies, yes,she did used to wear one. Google it). But to my great amazement, I found that in my pursuit of this make believe character, my family suffered. My husband suffered. My church has suffered. I was trying so hard to be everything to everyone and to be great at it, that I shortchanged them all. My attitude was bad. I was spread way to thin. I was not paying attention to things that I should have been. I was tired. No, more than that. I was exhausted mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Then one day I thought to myself, "Why? Why am I chasing this?" because after all -SPOILER ALERT- she isn't even real, ladies! The only answer I had was because I didn't feel like I alone, just me, was enough. I just wasn't good enough. I had confused this fictional female hero with the real life example that GOD had given me in the Proverbs 31 woman. I fell for the counterfeit version. In doing so, I was also doing it (life) my way and was always chasing my tail which left me frustrated and feeling even more inadequate. I was doing it all wrong. The Bible says:
Mt 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
I needed to refocus and get my priorities straight. I had to stop trying to get the praise, admiration, and approval of other ladies and seek that fulfilment where I was supposed to- in the Lord. If I did things according to His plan and not my own, maybe I would find what I had been looking for all along. So, I started the work of changing my thinking. This was no easy task. I had been thinking this way my whole life. If I was perfect, people would love me. If I excelled, people would love me. If I did everything, people would love me. If I was Wonder Woman, people would love me. See a pattern here? It's all works and solely focused on man (women). My attention to God had become minimal.
It's been years since I realized the truth that I was chasing something that wasn't real and while doing so, I had ignored what was. I'm still working on my thinking. It can be a struggle. There are days when I have to really fight to keep things in their proper perspective. There are also days that I fail; but I'm father along than I was last year or even last month, and that's progress. That's a win.
As for the woman referred to in Proverbs 31, she was real. She was no different from you or me. I'm sure she had her own struggles and issues just like we do. Why I believe God raises her up as an example is because she had her priorities right and her focus was where it should have been. In doing this, probably unbeknownst to her, she became the original Wonder Woman. I mean really, look at all she did! She was the real life flesh and blood one. If she can do it, why can't we?
I will let you all in on a little secret... when I started paying more attention to what I was focusing on, amazing things stared happening. Remember what Proverbs 31 says is her reward for doing things the right way?
Pr 31:28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
I have experienced this. Nothing feels better than when your husband and children think you are pretty great. So in trying to do it right, I'm starting to realize that I am a kind of Wonder Woman; maybe not in the world's eyes, but in the eyes of my family. Everything I have been trying to find since I was a kid, I am finally finding. Who would of thought that doing things God's way would work?
Don't get me wrong...if someone were to offer me a golden lasso, tiara, or cape- I would snatch it up in a hot minute! I mean come on---wouldn't you?